She's gonna be "broke"
Long story short: DH & BM had a private CS & alimony agreement. HE took HER to court to get an order for it. This was for several reasons: He couldn't claim the alimony on taxes without it, she used it as a tool to manipulate all the time, and he had to personally make arrangements to hand her a check every 2 weeks. He decided he'd rather just get his wages garnished, and not have to deal with her bs. The good news? It was reduced by almost $1000 through the courts per month! Hah!
This all happened last Tuesday. DH called CSEA today and they said it will take approximately 4-6 weeks for them to process the paperwork and another 2 weeks for them to issue payment. They said DO NOT, under ANY circumstances, pay her privately. Once the paperwork is processed, he will have to pay retroactively from the date of the CO. So, anything he gives her privately will be considered a "gift".
Here's the deal: her only "job" is sitting on her ass, collecting my DHs money. It's right before Christmas. He pays her so much money that I already warned him we weren't financing Christmas for his 3 kids this year. I let him know that they each get a moderate gift, and that's it. 2 of the 3 kids haven't even talked to him since July.
I am already predicting what is going to happen. BM is gonna be "BROKE" with no income stream. DH is gonna feel soooooo bad because skids aren't going to have a Christmas. He is going to attempt to finance a big Santa Christmas (even though skids are 10, 13, 16). He does EVERYTHING out of guilt... ALL the time.
I am sick of it. How do I even bring this up with DH? He makes double my salary and I feel like if I mention it, he is going to go off about me telling him how to spend his money and accuse me of trying to ruin his kids' holiday.
Last night though... he made a comment to me about how much we've spent lately on unexpected things. Then he told me that he felt bad he wouldn't be able to buy me something fancier for the holidays this year. SOOOO - he is already telling me that Christmas expenses are going to be a stress this year, but I know he will stretch us beyond the max to ease his guilt for ungrateful, horrible skidmarks.
How would you ladies approach this? I am getting anxious and stressed just thinking about it.