SERIOUSLY considering divorce...please help :(
BM's using DH (and me) as a babysitter. She randomly wants to pick up and drop off SK. She's also shown a romantic interest in my DH even though he's told her it will never happen. I'm not happy and I don't think I can live like this anymore, nor do I want to. The constant dropping off/picking up/phone calls/inviting DH to go do things with her is wearing on me. And DH does NOTHING to set ground rules with her. My DH and I have been fighting about this for almost 3 months, and lately everything's gotten worse.
I don't feel like the incessant running around is good for anyone. The SK has no stability, and in turn, our family has no stability. We can't plan anything and my kids never know when SK will/won't be there. It's creating a bad environment for all of us. And the longer we let her do this, the more often she does it. It went from picking up and dropping off every week, to every 2-3 days, to now everyday sometimes several times in one day. The one attempt DH made at saying anything about it, she gave him a guilt trip about not wanting his kid (which is NEVER the case). I just want our family to have some kind of stability. Also, I feel like she's using SK as an excuse to see DH in hopes of rekindling something between them, which is really sad.
My DH makes almost no attempt at fixing this. I feel like he is putting BM's wants and needs over mine, and those of the SK and my kids. She is literally wearing us out. I'm tired of fighting with him. But he won't put his foot down with her. I love DH very, very much, but is he giving me any other choice but to leave? It seems like his lack of trying to set ground rules with BM says a lot about how he feels about me/us. Which is, our family and marriage isn't important enough to put BM in her place. What do I do? Any advice is greatly appreciated...