Seeking advice. Would this be considered borderline abuse
DH has full Legal custody and BM has visitation with SD13. SD13 has Depression along with ADHD so you need to follow up with things more than to would a kid without those things
When SD goes over to BM's house she spends most of her time playing video games. I mean like 12 plus hours straight. SD13 NEVER goes to bed before midnight at BMs more like 2 or 3 in the am. All playing video games. More than once SD13 has stayed up ALL night playing video games. SD will go a whole week without stepping foot outside or go days without brushing teeth at BM's. Shower and changing clothes? Nope. SD will come home days later wearing what she left our house wearing.
SD13 takes daily Medication to help with her moods. Yes she's 13 and old enough to remember but if SD forgets BM won't remind her.
BM hates to cook. For the most part SD lives on pizza and hot pockets at BMs.
DH and I have no problem getting SD to shower, brush her teeth, go to bed at a normal time but BM can't.
BM does not beat SD but I think this falls on Borderline neglect. Thoughts?