SD spending christmas with MY family
I am so frustrated about what to do and really could use some advice. I am super excited to be spending christmas eve with my family this year, everybody will be there along with my SO and his SD5. She is for the most part a good girl and loves me and doing things with me, she is a funny, crazy outgoing girl, but when she is around people she doesnt know she is instantly shy and clingy. Now she has met my family multiple times now. She gets along great with my 1yr old neice and they play together perfectly,and sometimes even my 11yr brother, but everybody else who is older she will not talk to, she wont even look at them. She eventually will warm up to my sister and her husband (the parents of my neice) but it still takes awhile. I recently found out that my family actually is feeling offended when she gets like this, like they have to leave the room in order for her to have fun or do anything,they are great friendly people who try to talk to her, even buy things for, but she wont respond at all and will barely eat when they are around even if she is starving. i used to think she was just a shy little girl but now i am starting to see how it can be a little disrespectful and that my SO should be seeing this as well. I really want us all to have a great christmas but i am so afraid of her being like this and then getting tired and crabby and eventually ruining the night. WHAT SHOULD I DO? how can i bring this up to my SO without offending him? also i have never had a kid,so am i even right that she is being disrespectful and he should at least make her say hi or something? or is it something that should be left alone cuz she is just a little girl? my family means a lot to me and it embarrasses ME that she is acting like this with them.