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Ew. Someone needs a boyfriend. That is all.

My skids do/did this too. Teens/young adults. They also hold his hand while out in public.

I told my DH it's freakin weird and to stop it. He said they are my kids. I said think about my BS (who is 8 now) being 17 and sitting on my lap and holding my hand......

Ooh! Do what Redwings did. Take one (or several) pics of them when she sits on his lap. Then show it to him. I think in Redwings case, her husband realized how disturbing it can look.

I've been keeping my cell on my person for this express purpose. My DW doesn't see the look on Oedipus Rex's face when he hugs her, cuddles her and yes...sits on her lap...It's revolting I tell you but my wife doesn't see it from my POV. I am hoping a few candid cell pics will get her to see what I see.

My DD just did this to her dad (my XH). She plopped into his lap.

He promptly stood up and dropped her on her ass on the floor and told her to get off him.

The difference? She did it to prove a point... and knew that would be his response. She hasn't honestly tried to 'cuddle' in his lap since about age 5.

The point she was trying to prove is to SD19, who had gotten butt hurt when DH did pretty much the same thing to her a few days earlier. My DD was showing SD that it's a NORMAL dad reaction, they don't (and SHOULDN'T) want any female, related by blood, sitting in their lap, or having 'delicate lady parts that carry ANY part of their DNA within a three foot radius of their manly parts".

No no no no no. I hope the picture taking works. If not ask him if he thinks its just fine why don't they do it while at someone else home, in the park on the bench etc?

Ew! My SD is 20 and if she ever tried to sit on my DH's lap I think we'd both freak out. Soooo inappropriate! Our DD10 won't even sit on his lap at this point. I just can't imagine a 23 year old doing this! Gross!

Don't go to the event. Sounds like SD will do her best to make you feel like a 3rd wheel. Sounds like a better plan to spend the time with your kids.

Would he allow that in front of his own mother and father? If not, he knows on some level this is not appropriate.

I cannot stand these "parents" who think that because they are their children, they don't have to teach proper boundaries!

HHH My step daughters did the same until they 23 and when their mom draw him to court they witnessed against him and he was not guilty..Simply my husband was broke and he lost his money and their is no money milking cow anymore

I asked my husband what he thought while he was brushing his teeth. He immediately spit out his toothpaste (it wasn't time to spit, it was a reaction of disgust) and said "awwwww" while making a face (his yuck face--like he smelled something bad)
oh yeah, he has his own little princess and he thought it was disgusting and inappropriate
I guess he doesn't like the thought of his 30yo princess on his lap

That is disturbing...So what age, in everyone's opinion, does it become inappropriate? My SD is still very young but she's tall for her age and I think to ppl who don't know that, it is prob starting to look gross to them. Most of the time, I can't even sit next to him w/o her squeezing in between us. Every once in awhile, he does make her go sit by herself but geesh is she clingy...

Ewwwww! Mini-Wife Syndrome UNCHECKED gets reeealllly ugly. Ick.

I am so GLAD I have step sons.

SSstb11 (and BIG for his age) still sits in daddy's lap. SDstb14 is a very large girl and tries to as well.

We have also had SD telling me (when we first moved in together so she was almost 12 at the time) that she loves it when I go out early on Saturday morning because she gets into bed with DAddddyyyyy and takes my place.... (BTW Daddddyyyyyy sleeps starkers and we do USE the bed for other than sleep most nights - so his pwecious pwincess is snuggling with a naked man on VERY recently used sheets...) and my OH still saw nothing wrong with it and *I* was the sick one for being disgusted by that.

Then there is the sunscreen incident - last summer when she was 13. As I said - BIG girl - taller than me, and wider.... She's definitely developed. "daddddyyyyy can you do the sunscreen on the back of my legs?" Which he did, only SD tends to wear her swimmers fully up in her butt crack, so her cheeks are entirely showing, and OH not only does the backs of her legs, but right up the backs of her thighs AND the butt cheeks!!! OK on a 4 yo, SOOOOOOO not ok on this young lady. His response? "She's MY DAUGHTER! SHE'S JUST A KID!!!" NO OH, NO she is not a kid anymore that's kinda the point.

Do the photo thing. Show him how wrong it looks. And if he uses the "she's my daughter" line - yes, she is your ADULT daughter, she is NOT a child and it's inappropriate.

boyfriend may not help. i have a sd who is married and while her husband is in the army overseas, guess who she comes making eyes at?

Lynn, if I were you, I'd cheerfully ask DH if he had a boner while her grown up cheeks were landing in his nether regions. }:)

I would never have been comfortable doing that kind of thing with my dad. Yikes.

OSD will come up behind DH is he is sitting at the table and drape her arms around his chest/shoulders and put her face against his neck, and just hang there. Usually looking me dead in the eye while she does it. It's creepy. Thankfully she doesn't do the lap thing, but she gets as cuddly and weird as possible in any other way. Thankfully YSD isn't at all like that.

I wouldn't have done that to my dad past six years old. Boundary issues they have, and daddys's girl creepy eroticissm. Yuk . I've put up with worse from my almost step daughter. She wears g strings /string thongs in front of dad at 16.