Is this rude? I’m pretty mad right now and need advice.
Hi everyone. I will go straight to the point. My boyfriend's license was suspended because he has been pulled over by the police for drinking. But that was months ago and he hasn't bother to pay the fees to get his license back because he doesn't have a car either and we have both always used my car. Since he has two children, I've let him borrow my car to go see them and to do other important stuff. I have been telling him to get his license back and he just doesn't. I know it's stupid of me to get him drive, and that's why I put a stop to this. Since I don't want to put myself at risk I told him from now on I was going to drive him if he needed to go anywhere and not let him drive my car alone until he had his license back.
Everything seemed okay at first, but on Friday my boyfriend told me in the evenings that his 19 year old son was on his way to our house. He said: "Since now I don't have a way of going to see my kids, they're going to have to come here. I'm just letting you know".
But his son didn't just come for the evening, he stayed over for the weekend because he came with his backpack. What really bothers me is that my parents bought me a brand new couch about a month ago because we didn't had one before. The couch is not very big and it's white, so you need to take good care of it so it won't get any stains. So my boyfriend put his son to sleep in the new sofa, as if I don't exist without even telling me since there isn't a room for him. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable but it bothers me. My boyfriend might see it as normal because that's his son, his blood. But to me, he's a complete stranger sleeping on my new couch. Do I have to be okay with it? I take care of my stuff and couches are not beds.
So I feel like my boyfriend is being a jerk because I said I was not going to let him drive my car anymore until he gets his license back. Does that mean I'm going to have to deal with his kids coming and sleeping over as he pleases? Should his kids sleep over? His son is 19 and his daughter 17. He told me that before he started dating his kids will always be with him. Oh lord!!! Should I be mad and what can I do? Is him not having a car a reason for his kids to stay over or should he work something out to go see them and take them somewhere?