Rough COVID Family Time
SD15 now lives with us full time (well until her mom needs her to babysit her little sister which is now only one day a week).
We get SD15 on Fridays she goes home on Thursdays. So she only stays one day at BM's. Of course, we are still paying full child support. (our schools are virtual right now, SD doesn't want to go to our HICK school likes her city school so when they go back to in-person she will move back with BM).
I am going nuts with this. SD is talking about BM hubby being awful, with a ton of examples of how horrible he treats her. Which I have seen first hand, and BM never stands up for her. (This is why she stays with us) But SD is a lot to handle, she is a MOOOOODY teen. The other day I took her to get her hair cut (she has asked me for a month, I wanted to make sure she was 100% sure on what she wanted.) She gets it cut and HATES IT, it was just what she asked for but she doesn't like it now. So that night was was horrible, she was mean to DH and mean to me. She started telling me everything BM said about us, and how DH doesn't care about me. Taking a ton of cheap shots just to bring everyone to her level of unhappiness.
I asked DH to take her home the next day because I was not having it, I needed a break (this has been a few months of her living with us and she needed to leave). He tells her she should go home to BM and she if she can help her fix it. Well, guess who would not let her come home. BM, her hubby said it be better if she didn't.
So I get over it, I understand she is feeling all these rejections from her mother, and I am the same way with my hair I don't like it the 1st day. But REALLY how do people do this full-time. She does everything possible to make DH or me mad, we were hunting and she had to go. Then she starts playing on her phone at full volume, when we get on her she starts talking and making all the noise she can. So there went hunting.
And she was talking about how she has ZERO friends, which is true. In a new school (she is a freshman and covid) it's hard to make friends. But she has no friends at all. Which this sounds mean I can see why, as soon as she doesn't get her way, or she is in a bad mood she is mean. Like SUPER MEAN, DH cheated on me 11 years ago (it was one kiss and we were in an awful spot, still not okay but whatever), BM told SD and SD brings it up the other night. And try to act like she wished she stayed with that girl. LIKE REALLY.
I just need a rant, and I need to say I need a day alone, I want one day to chill in my own house and her not be awful.
To make it worse she is with me when I am home, we get along alot yes, but she takes her anger out on me and DH. I am not use to this. She is misarable, she isn't happy, she hates life right now, but I can't fix it and I didn't cause.
Where we all like this as teens?