Received recent diagnosis...not for SD...but for me.
Quick history recap:
Both DH and I widowed in 2005
Married each other in 2007
I am American, DH is British, and we live in England.
19yr old Daughter (at university)
15-year-old daughter (we get along great!)
11-year-old daughter (Serial killer in training)
For 4 years I have taken 11SD to various doctors and specialists to get a straight answer about what is wrong with her physically (walks like a gimp), emotionally (no conscience) and behaviourally (lies, steals, cheats).
Only to be told...there is nothing "wrong" with her...she is the way she is, through her own choice.
She is the only Dh and I fight about.
Even her own sister cannot stand to deal with her.
And there seems to be no end in sight for her disruptive, disobedient and disrespectful behaviour...as it has gotten steadily worse (despite counselling, creative parenting, punishments and positive reinforcements) in the past 4 years.
Meanwhile, after getting more and more symptoms I could not ignore, I finally took me to the doctors for a change...and was diagnosed with Sjogren's Syndrome (Pronounced SHOW-grins)
It is a form of Lupus, which also affects my glands.
In my case, the dr's are worried it has affected the glands associated with my lungs...and am currently undergoing various, fairly invasive testing, to determine if I have lung cancer.
They have told me that, “Stress” exacerbates my symptoms and pain.
“Stress” is the daily bread we live on around here.
I have nothing left to give.
I simply don't have the energy to care any longer what is wrong with her...
I just want it to go away so I can deal with ME for a change.
At my wits end...don't know what to do.
I cannot let this continue to get to me or this kid...and her behaviour...is quite literally going to kill me!
I am scared.
I am all alone.
And I am out of ideas.