A question from me
It's been in my head and while life really is good, all the kids are grown up my two married, his headed that way I think, I sometimes feel cheated by circumstances.
Have you ever felt cheated out of a bit of your happiness potential because the person who shares your life is scarred from their past hurts?
Sometimes I do and I think it's okay to feel that way. He is scarred from a nasty divorce and a woman who would have preferred he not be a part of "her" child's life. He was a part of it, he never shirked or stopped seeing his son. I admired that. But their divorce wounded him and left scars in his mind and I'm the one who has to deal with his fears. We are good, we are connected and we are in no way having any type of issue but still I wonder what he'd, what we'd have been like if he wasn't lving with those mental scars. I'm not going anywhere and I know without doubt that he loves me probably more than I love myself because I have those mental scars too.
I'm not sure where I'm going with this, it was just an idle thought. I've dealt with his fears and scars for well past 20 years, I will do so for every year we have left in life. I just wonder who we'd be if neither of us were battle weary and carrying baggage.
Anyway, that my thought. I guess we all deal with it and I was wondering if I'm alone in my thoughts.