With this qualify for parental alienation and if so how would you deal with it
New here and just saw the post someone did on parental alienation and got me thinking. DH Shares joint legal custody with BM. SD is 12 almost 13. BM is very narcissistic and DOES not co-parent well. Wants to be the favorite parent, no rules and will fight with DH over every little. Now this is the the real issue but wanted to paint a picture for you. Here is the issue....Now SS12 have been Seeing a Psychiatrist for the last 6 years for a mood disorder. SD has a Explosive Personality, can be violent and has had trouble both at home and school. BM has been fighting DH all along the way regarding this. She Basically wants to pretend that SD is just a normal kid and Sweep all her behavioral and emotional problems unde the rug. Her reasoning is she doesn’t want SD labeled as a nut. Sorry bitch but SHE is a nut and Getting dangerous so she needs to be under the care of both a Social worker and psychiatrist.
Now my best friend lives in BM Neighborhood and her Daughter is friends with SD. BM does not know this. My friend’s Daughter was over playing with SD and BM called SD into the kitchen. My friend’s Daughter overheard BM and SD going over Signals for SD’s next therapy appointment. Meaning if DH brings up some issue at school with the therapist BM will scratch the right side of her head when they come out to give SD heads up the therapist will be asking her about it. BM and DH go in alone to talk to the therapist then they go out in the waiting room and SD goes in alone to talk to the therapist. She also heard BM tell SD “all your father does is complain about you at these appointments and I need to defend you”. BM will also tell SD how to answer certain questions the therapist asks.
So my question is is the Parental alienation and how would you handle BM giving SD pre therapy prep talks and having secrect Gestures