Poll - Would you rather have full custody of step-kids or pay BM 50% of DH's salary?
Here is the situation: BM has sole custody of SD14 and SD12. She moved them far away, so I don't really have the typical step-mother issues of some of you on this forum. We do fly the kids out 2X/year, and have them for 4 to 6 weeks in the summer.
I must say, nice as SD's are, I cannot WAIT for the day they leave at the end of summer, as BF and I have 3 year old twin boys together, it is ALOT of work. It is VERY expensive to fly them out here, then pay BM Child support for the month (or more) they stay with us, while she takes a nice, child-free vacation (ARRGGHH!)
Now the BM is going even more crazy. She hasn't worked for 8 years, and all she does is "work on herself". No boyfriend, no job, no friends. She has started going to a New Age Church, and she takes SD's with her. At this church they do palm readings, psycic readings, chanting and astrology to determine their lives and future. It does NOT sound like a good environment for teens to be in, as it doesn't teach them that they have control over their lives (teaches them it is all up to "fate"). Anyway, we've discussed trying to get sole custody over this.
I am torn. I want what's best for the kids. and it would be really NICE to have hubby's whole income, not just 1/2 of it. But then we'd have 2 teen girls and 3 year old twin boys. Could be rough.
So a poll for step-moms out there;
If you could change it, would you be a step-mom full-time, or give away 1/2 DH's salary, and only be a part-time step-mom?