Pictures/captions of ex-wife still on Facebook?
How does everyone feel about your partner still having having pictures of the ex-spouse (each with glowing/positive captions), first family fun, etc., stillon Facebook?
I have been with my bf for over two years and he still has literally dozens of pictures of her up, including a picture of him proposing to her, lots of wedding pictures, and what look to be attempts at “sexy” and “glamour” shots that he obviously took of her. Captions range from “Best, most perfect day EVER” (about a wedding pic), to “My wife is the sexiest woman alive,” “sexy new look for my wife,” (about a haircut), “Isn’t she the most beautiful woman in the world? And she’s mine,” “look at this awesome hotel room we get to stay in, courtesy of my lovely wife...wink wink ;)” - you get the idea.
After we had been together about a year and lived together, I kind of hinted that they made me insecure, especially since there were no pictures of he and I with similar flowery captions. To be fair, he has posted pictures of us and written some nice things about me, but nothing in comparison to all the pictures of his wife. He sort of blew it off, saying it was a huge undertaking - going to take a long time - because there were so many pictures to go through, but he would think about it, yada yada. I brought it up a few more times over the next year, but he has never removed them. Last night this was a factor in a huge vicious fight that we had over him being fed up and at breaking point with my insecurity. I really lost it. To add salt to the wound, when we first started dating, my profile picture was a picture of my ex and I. It was a total oversight, but when he brought it up, I immediately removed the picture. Plus any other pictures of myself and my ex that looked “romantic/couple-y.”
Tiny bit of history: My bf and I dated before he and his wife did. He dumped me, and very shortly after was with her, who he married in short order after that. So yes, I still suffer with feeling like a second choice already. These pictures and captions really affect me. Does he not understand that, or not care? Or, worst of all, does he still cling to memories of that first family life? And want it out there publicly still?
-Would this make anyone else insecure or resentful? Am I within my right to ask that he remove those pictures? If he won’t, which it sounds like for some reason he really doesn’t want/intended to, could this be a dealbreaker?