Phone call insanity!
What would you say about a BM who feels it is her RIGHT to call your house as often as she likes when SD 10 is there?
We basically have SD for a 24 hour period (at a time). When BM calls she keeps SD on the phone for 15 or 20 minutes before DH has to ask SD to get off the phone. Then, 1 hour later, SD is asking to call her mom AGAIN and AGAIN. DH will respond- you may call your mother ONCE. SD will respond that BM has told her she can call as many times as she wants. Really?? Who makes the rules in our house? US or BM?
There is NO emergency going on other than BM being irrational & interfering & wanting to control everything!!!! She tells DH that he is being emotionally abusive to SD by not allowing repeated phone calls in one evening. We feel that BM is the one being emotionally abusive, disrupting the flow in our home with her repeated phone calls, getting SD all worked up over not being able to make 3 or 4 phone calls to BM in one evening. It is so stressful for everyone!
We cannot get BM to understand or be respectful so we have to do things like turn the ringer off on the house phone. Then BM will blow up the cell phone.
We see our counselor in 2 weeks, but can anyone offer any words of advice or comfort for the time being?