OT - Rant about girlfriend being "broke"
I guess this might be a bit ON TOPIC because it's about a BM.
Said BM has been divorced 4 years and has 3 children: DS18, DD16, and DD8. She just had a hearing yesterday for CS modification. She got what she wanted - an increase in CS for her two daughters at home. She won't know what the judge decided on back child support or lawyers fees until his ruling arrives by mail.
She's bummed today and was going on and on with me about how I just don't get it - that she's struggling to feed her three children!!!
Okay, let's review. She has a BRAND NEW Subaru with a car loan and an old Subaru without a car loan that's for her daughter to use "someday." She gets her nails done regularly and pays about $200 a month for her phone bill and another $200 a month for cable. To top it all off, she is living in the house she grew up in and her dad pays the mortgage. She pays about $300 a month towards "rent" and pays the utilities.
She allows her 18 year old who has graduated and is working full time, earning a nice salary, live there rent free and consuming groceries and utilities as he and his girlfriend like to have shower sex for at least 30 minutes (water isn't cheap).
She earns about 30K less than I do and when I asked why she was so bummed today after prevailing and she went on this whine about how she needs more money so she can feed her children. She also threw out how I make more than she does. Yeah. I have a bachelor's and master's degree and my kids are all grown. Um, duh. She's halfway through her undergrad degree.
I don't have a brand new Subaru - I don't have a car payment. I don't get my nails done weekly. I have a pedi once every 6-8 weeks. I have a $43 cell phone bill and a $0 cable bill (DH pays for it). I just don't have as many expenses as she does because she thinks she needs the latest phone and a full cable/Internet package.
I don't feel sorry for her ex. He cheated on her and is a registered sex offender (affair with 14 year old). He married the woman he cheated on BM with. That woman already had 4 kids and they've had 2 or 3 together; together they have TEN kids. Yes he's a narcissistic butthole, but seriously!! The answer is not to get more and more and more money out of this guy. He's been ordered to pay the appropriate amount according to the state.
With child support, she only makes 10-12K less a year than I do.
I tried to tell her we all have choices to make and if it REALLY comes down to her not being able to feed her children, she'll have to make sacrifices (nails, cable, cell phone bill, etc.)
She doesn't want to hear it. She thinks like a poor person, so I doubt she'll ever have a lot.