OT: Friends with relationship problems
One friend is in a "step-type" relationship, the other is not.
Friend A I have known since high school. She is a lesbian and met "The One" about 6 months ago. Their relationship look to be a solid one, but my friend, after sharing her relationship history with "The One" proceeded to tell the love of her life that she was meeting a friend for drinks/dinner one night while the girlfriend was in class. Later the GF asked who my friend had met and it turned out it was a former lover from 20 years ago that the GF had already expressed her discomfort with. Weeeeeelllll, GF blew a gasket, said my friend was being sneaky and she wasn't sticking around until my friend cheated on her. My friend A is a hot mess. I told her flat out that if my DH did the same, I would also blow a gasket, but I don't think it's a relationship-ender. It seems GF has a history with a serial cheater ex-GF. GF claims her past has been dealt with, but it seems not.
Friend B is dating a man she thinks is "The One." He has been separated for a while now, but is not divorced. He has 2 sons, 18 and 13. His STBex is planning to move to CT with the lover she cheated with, AND is taking the 13 year old. Naturally, the dad is quite upset and was ranting a few days ago about the STBex. He typically, according to my friend B, hasn't a kind word for her, but said that the guys she's with is only with her for the (I quote) "First class pu$$y." My friend was blown away thinking "WTF." She finally brought it up to him and told him how she felt. He did not respond well.
The lesson here is that men often say the stupidest things and gay couples have similar relationship issues. My closest friends are all having really big issues right about now and it's hard trying to be there for them all. Aside from the two with relationship issues, my other two friends each have a family member battling/dying from cancer.
I'm tired. LOL
At least, with my relationship in a good place, I have the time to tend to my friends.