No BM - we won't assume your tax bill (sigh)
So DH moved back in after agreeing to all of my conditions - he isn't allowed to unpack anything except his clothes though until we have gone through six months together, he follows all my conditions, and I feel like we are on a good path.
Of course, as soon as he moves in again, BM starts a whole new pile of crap. They both owe for 2008 taxes, or they did until the IRS took it ($3500) out of BM's enormous tax refund. DH is so brilliant that (based upon my research) he asked her if she had filed an innocent spouse claim. Of course she hadn't because she is an idiot, but thanks to DH's big mouth she immediately did. Well, apparently since we live in a community property state you have to claim that DH falsified or messed up on his taxes and BM had no way of knowing this because she wasn't involved in his business. Nothing like that happened, the taxes are correct, BM organized and submitted all the tax info to the preparer, and she claims to be a "co-owner" of their business on her resume.
Anyways, she gets on the phone with DH while he is talking to the kids and asks him not to appeal the IRS decision to refund some of her payment because "she needs the money". Okay, hold on here while I laugh hysterically. Yes BM - we will assume your half of the tax bill based upon fradulent information that you provided to the IRS in exchange for ????? No, we are appealing it, providing them with the correct info (including a copy of her resume) and she can explain why she made those claims. I hear McDonalds is hiring if you need more money BM.