Does anyone have any experience with the DCYF in New Hampshire? My SO's ex-wife has reported him to DCYF because their son is allergic to cats and I have a cat. We have lived together for 1.5 years and she has always been aware of both the cat and the allergy. Their son lives in our home 64% of the time (decided by a GAL). We keep his bedroom door closed at all times, run an air purifier in his bedroom, use Allerpet-C on the cat twice a week and keep the common areas well vacuumed (bought a pet specific handheld vacuum for the furniture).
Anyway, the social worker has interviewed the son and interviewed us, as well, in our home. Other than the cat, it's quite evident that there is no other harm to the child. However, the mother is batsh*t crazy and my SO detailed a lot of that to the social worker (as did our references). She has tried, fruitlessly, to change a number of things recently (wants every weekend with the son, wants more child support, etc) and we can see clearly that this is another attempt to regain some sort of control.
Is it possible that DCYF might turn their eyes to her if they realize the son is not in danger in our home, but could potentially be in hers? The boy also has asthma and she is burning wood in her home for heat and her boyfriend smokes. Both of those things are not good for his health conditions either, but calling DCYF is not part of our parenting style. It shouldn't be anyone's. Cleary we have a grown woman who doesn't know about the boy who cried wolf. Her mother, who we used as a reference for us, told the social worker, for instance, that she fears her daughter will become physical once the boy is old enough to "talk back". The mother is a narcissist and, hence, extremely difficult to deal with.