New here and need to vent and need advice!
Ok, here's the story....wish I could sum it up but it will be hard. I am a 31 year old step mom to a 10.5 year old boy who has been diagnosed as ODD (oppositional defiant disorder - which is the least fun to deal with in the world. Essentially, it's like nailing jell-o to a tree). He hates my guts and wants his parent alone to himself. I will add here for the thought, I am a lesbian and in a "marriage" arrangeent with my partner. Anyhow..the boy has major anger issues, lies all the time, etc. It has gotten increasingly more stressful and I am at my wits end.
How do you determine if it is worth it?? I am a school counselor but am struggling with this at home. I can help "Fix" other people's kids very easily, but not the one I live with. Half the time you don't know if he is acting out of oppositional for attention or if its a character defect - saying he hates God, thinks bad thoughts all the time, wants to know what it would be like to stab someone, lies chronically, etc.
Anyone else with a similar situation??? I know if I called Dr. Laura, she'd say - get out! I know I would tell my friends that. But its hard....