New here- alone time with adult kids
Background- I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. I have 3 teens, one at home and 2 in college. He has 2 daughter 21 and 18. We do not live together due to the kids and the fact that trying to combine homes with 5 almost grown kids seems silly and have decided to wait. The problem is with my bf and his relationship with his oldest d. The girls won't stay with their mother because they don't like her new husband, so they stay with him full time. When his oldest is home from college, he wants to spend every second with her that he can. I understand that because she is graduating and probably moving away in a few months, but the problem is he seems to intentionally exclude me. She is home now for break and I haven't seen him since Saturday. This weekend he mentioned that he was taking his girls and their boyfriends to a nearby town for dinner. I asked what time, assuming I was invited, and he said he wanted some alone time with the kids. I got kind of upset and said it wasn't really alone time if everyone was going. Basically I'm the only one excluded. Is this normal? He has a lot of guilt and fears about the girls leaving home. I do get time with my kids alone and enjoy it, but it's almost like he never wants me around when she is home. For God's sake I haven't been around at all this week.