New custody arrangement mean no life for us
Hi! I have been with my partner for 2 years, he has a four year old boy and my boys are grown up. When we met he had 50/50 custody and it worked pretty well. I was a bit reluctant to take on a young child again but we took things slowly and it's been fine. My partner does spoil his little one mainly because of guilt and over compensating but I step back and mostly can deal with it although sometimes it makes me cringe. Anyway fast forward to a few months ago his ex basically started a war over custody and we now only have him on Friday night to Monday morning every week so we never have chance to go out with friends or together because my partner wants to enjoy all the time he can with his son. I completely understand but also I miss my relationship...the ground rules have changed here! I work long hours, my partner works part time and is happy enough spending every weekend at home watching movies with his boy. I'm craving some grown up fun time!
I've tried bringing it up but he glosses over it or says he'll plan something and it never happens. I'm starting to make plans without him now just to get out of the house on the weekend.
are we doomed?