hi everyone, im new to this site and new to step parenting as well!
i have a soon to be step son who is 10.5 yrs old. he is an only child whose parents and grandparents do not believe in discipline at all, the mother blames the father who blames the mother who then blames the grand parents...as you can see its a vicious cycle of blame that never ends and in the meantime the child has grown up this far to be a very spoiled/disrespectful child.
the boy is fine and pleasant to be around as long as he's getting what he wants BUT when he isn't he yells at his dad asking him "why cant I?" over and over until the dad or grandparents give in. When i stress my point about how this type of behavior should not be given in to, the dad says things like he doesn't know what to do because he feels like its him against all of them. The child is always on his phone playing games(yes a 10.5 yr old with a phone) and when the dad tries to take the phone from him the child will bow up to him arguing about why he cant have his phone.
I have tried telling the dad that if he did not stop this behavior then when the child was old enough to drive it would be something along the lines of im taking the car whether you like it or not, what are you gonna do about it!
I have been around the child several times and some times its fine and other times it isn't. yesterday it wasn't.
He was in his grandparents room using the bathroom and when he came out we were all sitting in the living room, when he came out and saw me he rolled his eyes, huffed and went back in the bedroom, where he stayed until we( me and my grown son). everyone made excuses for him acting this way.
When we left granny and dad told me i needed to go in and say bye to him but i felt like if he didn't have enough respect for me to at least say hi before going back in the room then why should i chase him down and say bye to him?. i don't feel like i should have to kiss his butt to be my friend. anyhow if anyone has any suggestions for me, i would appreciate it!!