Ok, my husband and I have been married for 2 years. We have been together for 3 years. I have a 6 year old daughter, and my husband has a 9 year old son. My problem is that I really can't stand my stepson. He is such a brat. If we are going to do something that he doesn't want to do, he will throw a fit, like a toddler having a temper tantrum, and ruin it for everyone involved. If he is told to do something he doesn't want to do, he screams and yells and says hateful, hurtful things. I say he is 9 going on 3. My 6 year old is more well behaved then his 9 year old. I have friends, who are "kid people" (I am not a "kid person"), who can't stand my stepson. Some of my friends will not come over, or have us over, when he is with us. He is embarrassing to take out in public because of his hissy fits. My question is, what do I do? The kid knows that I don't really care for him, I'm not mean, or rude or anything, I'm just not really "buddy buddy" with him. I haven't said anything about my feelings to my husband, because I'm not sure how to address it with him. His ex, the biological mother, is a very difficult person to deal with, has 3 children with 3 different men, screams at curses at her children, and is extremely vindictive, so I don't feel comfortable disciplining my stepson because of her. I also think his behavior problems are a combination of her actions and my husbands over compensating for her actions by being his son's friend (yes, I've told him that he should stop that, and he is getting better). What do I do? Grin and bear it for the next 9 years until he is out of the house? How do I tell my husband that I think his son is a brat? Help!!