My own trauma affecting situation
Does anyone else feel like their SO's custody schedule is triggering to them based on their own trauma?
Growing up I had married parents but my dad was emotionally unavailable to me/didn't give me the attention I craved. Seeing my boyfriend faithfully abide by his custody schedule of having his daughter 35% of the time makes me sad/resentful, because I never got time like that to spend just with my dad, and I'm not even sure he would have fought to see me that much. Even her having a bedroom at our house is triggering for me because I keep wondering, would I have had that at my dads house if they split up when i was a kid? It sounds crazy but I'm jealous she has time alone with her dad. i don't have kids BTW.
I know this is 100% my issue, SD and husband have every right to have a close relationship, i just find it triggering to me and makes me not enjoy her time here. It's jealousy but also trauma for me. I am trying to call around to find a therapist to deal with this and maybe so medication. Also i am super, extremely nice to SD and never told her dad about this. I understand at 27 it's my responsibility to face my trauma and not let it affect me anymore but easier said than done. I recognize I wasn't treated right and the way husband is treating his daughter is the right way. Just makes me feel unworthy.