My husband's family still in contact with Egg Donor
Oh boy. Is there EVER a time when you have step children that there's NOT drama from either them or the BM (or Egg Donor as we lovingly call ours....)
Brief history so you can understand this. Husband and Egg Donor have two children together. SS8 and SD6. Shortly after SD turned a year old, Egg Donor cheated on husband and husband and 4 other guys (including the children's pediatrician) had to take a paternity test. Turns out it was some bum's child. Hubby divorces wife, but judge makes hubby let egg donor live in the house during her pregnancy and for the first 3 months after the baby is born. During this time, she would drop the baby off at a relative's house and go out partying - completely ignoring SS and SD. Hubby files for custody of the children and gets it. I met them a year after all this happened. Egg Donor was in and out of their lives when she felt like it, often going months between visits (living in the same town). Of course there's LOTS more to the story, as you can imagine...... Egg Donor finally traps some guy 10 years younger than her into marrying her and gets preggars right away. They move 3 states away.
Fast forward to now. I've been in children's lives for 4 years, we're married and have a daughter of our own.
I see on facebook a few months back that my husband's aunt (who lives in our same town) posted that she had lunch with Egg Donor and her two children (her other two kids, not my step children) while Egg Donor was in town dropping off SS and SD.
I was very upset and no one really understood why. Hubby was a bit annoyed, but nothing like I was.
Last week, I notice on Facebook that Aunt writes "Had a lovely lunch with my lovely niece "Egg Donor".
WHAT?!?!?!??!? Again?!?!??!??! Her NIECE?!?!??!?!??!!? WTF???????
I am so upset and feel so betrayed. All of his family knows what she did to him (and there was more than just the cheating) and how she's messed with the kids. She was only in the family for 3 years, and never really close to any of them. Why are they now having lunch with her and meeting her other children. It seems like a slap in the face to me.
SD has had a LONG history of behavorial problems and we've been to countless hours of counceling, a lot of it stemming from Egg Donor's head games with them. She cheated on my husband and compeletely ruined his life. She killed his credit, she trashed his house, she alienated his friends... it goes on and on.
And to top it all off, this Aunt used to work for Department of Children and Families and is now volunteers for the Guardian Ad Litem program. She knows first hand how a messed up individual can affect their children.
Has anyone dealt with anything like this before???