My bf’s ex has full custody and is being neglectful with the kids
I’m 32 and my boyfriend has three kids 6, 9, & 10. I adore them. We live in California. They live in Phoenix. Lately she has been leaving the kids alone to go on dates and go the gym sometimes for 2-4 hours and sometimes for 8-12 hours. Last Saturday night we are 90% sure they were alone overnight. They woke up alone and she came back a couple of hours later. His oldest calls us everyday because she is so lonely. His other two are becoming destructive and acting out. We are not sure what to think of his ex’s new behavior. I understand her needing to date and do her own thing, but shouldn’t the kids come first? Is this child endangerment? At what point do we need to step in? My bf only has visitation rights. She fought so hard and lied about him in court to get full custody and now it’s as if she doesn’t even want to be a mom. We aren’t in a place where we can take the kids right now. I love these kids and I want to help, but I don’t know what I can do being a state away. My bf won’t move to Phoenix to be with his kids and I’m not sure that’s the best option either. She leaves them alone every day. Has anyone else experienced anything like this before?