Moving to be near SSs
My DH's sons live in a different state. He moved away from them 2 years ago to be with me. He wants to move back to be near his boys. We currently live about 5 hrs from them and DH drives to see them every other weekend. SSs also come to see us during the summer and holidays.
DH is talking about moving back next summer. I DO NOT want to go. My friends and family are here and we are expecting our first child together. I need my support system. I have been here for 36 years.
My biggest concern is the ex. We get along great but she is VERY moody toward my DH. Nice one day then hangs up the phone and will not talk to him for days the next. She is a vengeful person. For example, after the divorce, my DH came home from a date and found her in bed with his roommate. To make it worse, it was DH's BED!!! She also filed harassment charges against DH after she met and married a crazy man (that lasted less than 3 months). She also moved the kids to an undisclosed town and changed all phone numbers. Also filed harassment complaint against DH at work.
In addition for my reasons above for staying where we are, I do not trust her. She now claims she can go after my assets to get more money in support. I come from a wealthy family and am taking care of for life. She is two faced and appears to be a little unstable. The distance is good. I am afraid she will cause problems if we move to her town. I do not want her to know our business (where we live, what we do, who we see, etc...). Socioeconomiclly we live different lives and DH and I know she is VERY jealous.
Anyone out there have a comment or been in a situation like this? Any advice on how to sell the idea of NOT moving for the sake of our marriage? I am growing more and more concerned. I want to say that I do understand DH's desire to be near his children, but she has issues!!!