More ludicrous demands from BM
Hi, guys. I have had a long break from having to deal with BM, since SD16 has ceased communication with her father and me (he has not heard from her since early 2013). We send child support, pay her health insurance, and review the copays from the insurance company's records and send BM a check quarterly for those. In October, my husband was served with a "show cause" notice concerning unpaid expenses that BM thinks he should pay for. These include a concierge fee for her primary care physician, massages, energy healing sessions, gluten-free food, tutoring for AP English, a summer "Spanish enrichment" trip to Costa Rica for two weeks at a cost of $2500, tylenol, and OTC allergy meds. She sent a stack of grocery store receipts with gluten-free brownie mix and pretzels, as well as quinoa and energy bars circled on the receipts. The rest of the purchases are blacked out like a CIA document redacted for release. The energy healing costs $90/session, and SD16 goes weekly after one of her counseling sessions. (Those are covered under the insurance and we have paid half the copays.) SD has had as many as 3 counseling sessions per week and just recently dropped back to one weekly. SD16 is currently on 6 medications, prescribed by a psychiatrist. Several are for side effects from the ADHD meds that we don't believe she even needs. The family practice where SD is seen has recently stopped billing insurance companies at all, instead charging $360 per year just to be a patient in the practice, not for any actual medical services.
The total demand is for over $6000, in addition to the child support to be increased, and in addition to the over $2500 we have paid her for medical expenses in the last two years. The total submitted to my husband's insurance company for SD16's medical care in 2 years is over $27,000. This is for a healthy child doing okay in school. The energy healer has no license to practice anything in Virginia, not massage or therapy of any kind.
To make matters worse, my husband's mother passed away in the spring, and he received an inheritance that he used to pay off the HELOC on our house, and put away the rest in a retirement account, since he has nothing saved for retirement. BM is going to try to get her hooks into that money. Unfortunately, Virginia has a precedent that counts inheritance as income.
DH has hired an attorney, since this is so complicated and weird. The attorney thinks he could have to pay for all of it. I am so anxious and worried. We had just gotten to a place where we could afford to go out to dinner once a month and have a cushion in case we had an emergency. We just had to replace the heat pump. Lawyer wanted a retainer of $3500.
Any advice? You guys have made me feel so much better in the past.