Mobile phone privacy
Hi everyone. New member here. After being a stepparent for 24 years across 3 relationships, 4 1/2 with current partner, I have finally reached a point of needing to seek support online.
I have som many issues but I will start with one that I cannot find any advice on through any method of searching online.
My stepdaughter, 10, had a mobile phone but she does not respect privacy. She is constantly taking selfies and photos in bedroom which is shared with my daughter who is almost 14 and videos for posting on tik tok and has absolutely no awareness of what is going on around her and what could be captured on the pics/vids. My partner spoke to her about it last visit in front of birth mother who apparently agreed with him at the time and yet last night my daughter reports that she was taking pics in the bedroom after lights out, one specifically aimed at my daughter.
I have an issue with mobile and Internet security in general but getting the message across to this child is not happening.
I told my partner it is at a point now where we should ban her from having her phone in the bedroom because last night when my daughter texted me to tell me he sneaked up but she heard him so put phone down so he didn't say anything even though, why would my daughter make it up? He says that when we move house next week it won't be as easy for her to hear him coming (I agree) but in other words I'm not going to ban her having her phone unless I catch her in the act in the new house.
I have asked him in the past when she was 9 to check her phone for photos she had taken as I wasn't happy with something I saw her doing but he refused saying he is not invading her privacy. Privacy? For a 9 year olds mobile phone activity? I pointed out she could be being groomed and he wouldn't know and he agreed but he won't invade her privacy to check what she gets up to online (bearing in mind that when we got to together my then 9 year old had never heard of YouTube, it was his then 6 year old daughter who showed it to her.
My partner gets very angry especially when I am complaining about his daughter, so if I were to just take her phone there would be hell and especially if I tried to force her to unlock it so I can check photos.
He had 2 boys aged 11 and 14 as well but they are not a problem at the mo (they have their moments though) but I just come to loggerheads over his daughter because she is a spoiled little diva.