MIL Vent - long - sorry!
My mom is very involved with both kids. We'll go out to dinner a few times a month or she'll come over to visit. She attends 90% of SD sporting games and school programs. With our permission, she enrolled SD in an extra-curricular class and took her to each class in order to bond with SD. My grandparents were the same with me.
MIL has declined to attend any of SD's (or DS's) events. The few times she agreed to go to a party with SD, she gets "sick" right before. In the 3 years, DH and I have been together, MIL has come over for dinner once, for Christmas Eve (she tried to bail, but BIL insisted), to my old place for dinner once. She attended 2 of my wedding showers, the rehearsal dinner and the wedding. So a total of 7 outings. DH feels obligated to have SD see MIL every weekend (EOW if I'm lucky). Obviously, this means we have to go there. I resent this!! MIL focuses on the kids - and that's fine, but DH wants me to go to keep him company. This behavior hurst DH, but he feels that he has no choice. Lately, I've been dodging the heck out of going!