Make a list of everything that annoyed you about skid this weekend
-I asked him to take a shower on Sunday morning before we went to my parents (he had not had one for at least 48 hours possibly more). He argued, whined, and hid behind dh's chair to avoid the shower. What 7th grader does that?
-He told my bd, 8, this weekend that while on vacation earlier this summer he drank one of my alcoholic beverages-half a bottle of a smirnoff ice.
-Dh spoke to him after he left and asked him about the alchol which he confirmed that he did, but then said it was my dd, 12, fault because she "dared him to".
-DD,12, said she never did that. That he did say to her that he was going to drink it and she told him he would get in trouble and he said, "no I wont" and then she walked off and didnt know what he did.
-I had folded and separated laundry for abut 45 minutes and set it on the washing machine until I could tell everyone to come get their things and put them away. At some point he came along and threw them all on the floor.
-He admitted throwing them on the floor but then said that that was ok because the pile on the washer was messy.
-He yelled at me as he was telling me he shouldnt have to pick up the laundry.
-I got a new kitten this weekend which I never was able to play with as he was stuck up its butt all weekend. He told my dd, 12, that the kitten didnt like her because it ran from her when she first saw it.
-He was grounded by bm when he got here for getting an inschool suspension for calling a peer a bitch. He had no tv privileges, couldnt go anywhere,etc-dh originally said we would do the same here but when he realized that meant he would also have to stay home with ss-he gave him the opportunity to "work it off here" SS agreed and his first (well only) task was to clean the kitchen on Friday night. We left him upstairs to get to it and he never did it. When asked to do it Saturday morning he whined, argued, but then finally spent 2 hours doing it(it was maybe 30 minutes of work at best).
-Ss did tell me in the convo we had on Friday night that he had written a big list of all the lies he had told about me to bm because she wanted him to confess-he did this about a year ago. yesterday, dh suggested to ss that perhaps it would be a good idea for him to "come clean" with me and accept responsibiltiy for his wrongs and apologize. he refused and hid under the table.
-whenever my son tried to speak to ss he would tell him, "I don't speak freakazoid"
-when I got upset with him for throwing my laundry on the floor, and then yelling at me, and refusing to pick it up-and then I walked off-he turned to the rest of the family "and said, "see, she's always trying to get me in trouble"
-my ds was sweeping the floor with a broom and ss came up and grabbed it from him, ds punched him in the arm, ss grabbed and pushed him down on the floor and hit him in the stomach.
-he never shuts his mouth, seriously-NEVER. From the time he gets up in the morning til the time he goes to bed-he either is telling some bizarre story or he is singing at the top of his lungs, whistling, or if nothing is coming out of his mouth, he is banging things against each other and making noise.
-BM called after she got him home and was mad at him. he had homework that needed to be done but he needed internet access which she doesnt have. We have it here. Dh and BM both asked ss when dh picked him up if he had homework and he said, "no". When dh got on the phone and confronted ss about saying he had no homework he said that he had forgot about it.
-He did come down and apologize to me about the laundry however prefaced it by saying, "Dad told me I had to apologize" to which I responded if you are only doing it because your dad told you to then dont waste your time. He did add, "I really do mean it". but when dh talked to him later on the phone and dh said something about the incident, ss once again said it wasnt his fault and he did nothing wrong.
Sorry this list is extensive but just had to express my frustrations.