Last night we left
I've been on here a little while now and everytime I post about the troubles of step life people suggest leaving and going to a hotel. Last night I took that advice, packed a bag for me and our young baby's and checked into a hotel. Let me tell you how empowering that felt! It was the best advice ever for anyone who isn't sure.
Basically we have the skids every wknd and spend all of our downtime chasing them to sports, birthday parties, pick ups and drop offs and basically DH entertaining them the entire time. A fight began because BM has decided to take them away next month so we will get a wknd off for once. I mentioned it would be nice to spend that wknd with our baby and go away aswell and to get a sitter so we can have adult time (his kids won't be babysat - too precious) then he tells me he would rather do it with all the kids, and that we can't go without skids. He goes to the extend of even booking it behind my back and then "surprising me"
Of course I was deflated, now the whole trip will he spent parenting and entertaining skids who gobble all of daddy's time. I will he left to care for baby alone which is hard work. I'm tired, I'm exhausted, he doesn't spend anytime with boo as it is as he gets home late when he is already in bed and leaves for work before he wakes each day. He rationalises it with "I see him on wknds" which I thief is not good enough as he is with us full time and it's not the same! Not to mention he makes time for skids but won't make time for me and baby. Anyway, he got angry and said I was excluding the skids, so I excluded myself and packed a bag and left. We slept in a luxury hotel with a luxury king bed and ordered room service. I then refused to come home until he was prepared to talk about our issues and stop acting like the poor skids are always missing out. He even admitted that skids her more time than anyone. I don't know where to from here yet, but it might just be time to move on for a bette Rolfe that doesn't involve skids on special treatment!