Last Min Plans with BM
We have had SD10 since school was out 12/21. We were supposed to exchange on Christmas Day at noon. BM texted Christmas Eve and said she was "working" Christmas Day (she's a nurse). SD called BM on Christmas.They wished each other Merry Christmas and that was it. BM then texted DH after the call, that should would be "out of town" until SD has to go back to school (January 5th). We are remote now, so school can be done anywhere, but whatever. So she asked DH if she could just stay with us for the rest of the holiday break. He said sure.
SD came downstairs today "When is it going to be Friday?"
DH: "Yesterday was Friday, why?"
SD: "When can I go to my mom's?"
DH: "She has plans to go out of town, so you'll stay here with us."
SD: "Omg, seriously?! Another whole week here?!"
DH: "Hey, your BM is the one with the plans, don't get mad at me. I know it's soooo terrible here for you."
He shouldn't have been sarcastic, but I get where he is coming from. He spoils the sh!t out of her (material wise) and she is totally ungrateful. Also, how rude of that to say infront of your DH and SM?
Anyway, I guess my question is: Why is SD so blinded by BM? SHE was the one who made plans to not use her custody time or see her daughter over Christmas. DH was merely the messenger. But HE is the one that catches grief for having her "one more week"?? SD never blames her Mom or looks to her as the cause/reasoning behind things. She can do no wrong. Has she been brainwashed? Is it that since SD10 is a carbon copy of BM, they will just always be two peas in a pod? Her BM treats her like sh!t but SD continues to idolize her. It sounds seriously unhealthy. We are pretty sure BM has BPD, so I'm sure she portrays a "grandiose" image of herself to her daughter. Ugh, so frustrating.
Anyway, MY parents are coming to visit tomorrow to exchange gifts. I already let them know SD will be here, but is in a p!ssy mood. Hoping she won't ruin their visit!