Keep calm while under attack
Well Wednesday I had to leave work and meet with wife, ss15, and his two therapists so he could be released from a mental health facility. "Family therapy" is what I was told it was going to be. Well it was more like underhanded attacks on me and my parenting style. Here are a few things I was told without being allowed to respond.
1. I treat my kids different when it comes to the way I allow them to talk to me.
2. I have different rules for mine and hers
3. (Step son literaly said this) I need to back off on how I raise my voice to my bio son 6 and not be so strict with my bio son.
4. I need to spend more time with step son's. Not just criticizing them. .
5. I need to take a more active role in parenting them.
That's just a few days for the things that I was told. Well I tried to respond and got shut down almost instantly by my wife . Yes I havr different rules and standards for my kids. That's why my two older ones are straight A students, do chores without being asked and don't complain when asked and do them to standards above what was expected. They do there own laundry and shower EVERY DAY.
I give my bio 6 ONE time of being asked to do something. Then I raise my voice (not yell) and ask again. At that point he knows i mean business and does whar I ask. I will not let my bio 6 get away with not listening. I have tried multiple times to spend time with Step son's onlt to be shut out, stole from, lied to, lied about, and just down right disrespected and used. I was told by wife and previous counselor to inform wife of things with SS and let her handle them. Now I get told I have to engage. THANKS BUT NO THANKS. I Know I shouldn't have but I looked at textes between her and her boys and their was alot of shit talking and laughing about my kids. She has went through my phone and phone bill more times than I can count so I don't feel like I did anything wrong. Things were said between them that brought tears to my eyes and a feeling of manipulation I haven't ever felt. All this I knew while sitting in this meeting and then twards the end SS says " I do like do fedupskid because he has consistency and mom is easier to manipulate" ding ,ding ,ding . Lmfao yep but I'm still the bad guy. They asked if I had anything to say at the end and I politely said nope. So freaking done.