Just need some validation
After being out of my relationship with b/f for a month now, I am still struggling with issues involving him and his 17 yr old daughter. Things I tried to point out to him that I felt were VERY inappropriate were always brushed aside and chalked up to either my being "jealous" of her, or that I had no right to say anything because I am not a biological parent. I know there are parents and step parents here, so give me your honest opinion please. I still question my decision to leave, but still feel like i had no choice. Here is his behavior with her in a nut shell:
He insists on kissing her on the mouth, plays with her ass, (runs his hand down from her lower back and than holds her butt from underneath and rubs and pats her), admittedly "enjoys crawling into bed with her to watch movies", shares everything with her, including private information about our relationship, makes comments about her body such as if she is chilled and is poking thru her shirt,,,he smiles and says...." are you cold?". tells her every little thing, asks her if his parenting skills are suitable, looks to her for emotional support....and in turn, here is how she acts,,,she dresses with her bedroom door open, uses the bathroon with the door open, flirts with him, does things to him that she would see me do, like rub his back, hug him while he's at the computer, run her fingers thru his hair, rub him anytime she walks by him, dresses inappropriately like wearing tight little shorts that are up her but and no underwear, tight see thru tank tops with no bra...you get the picture. It exhibits every sign of Emotional Incest but the laying in bed stuff makes me sick. I seriously wonder how far that has actually gone. His responses to me when I approached him on this is "some things between my daughter and me are none of your business", or "she is my daughter and i'm not gonna change".....the fact that she IS his daughter is what makes this so concerning. THey actually act like boy friend/girl friend.
Please tell me i am not crazy. This IS all wrong isn't it? And what do I do now? Do i report him? I feel like part of the problem if I do nothing.