Dh just got off work and is on the way to pick the kids up from daycare. For some reason he mentions how he actually likes picking up the kids, and he didn't think he would. (up until mid-dec I picked the kids up and he didn't get home until it was almost bedtime). I say how that's good ect. And he mentions how they really just go watch tv in their rooms and don't bother him. I make a joke about how I wish I knew his secret cause they never do that for me.

And he gets all defensive and goes off on how they aren't that bad, and I have no patience for them. That he thinks they are well behaved. And lists off an example of the kids of a family friend that are out of control, and says that they are better than that. And ends up hanging up on a huff.

And of coarse I am ay work and can't reallly say anything back without looking like a nut job to my coworkers.

Nevermind that he has the kids in his presence for a maximum of three hours at a time, and only one of those he's there without me.
The last time he had all the kids for any length of time was last October, he had them for eight hours while I was at a conference for work. I met up with them for lunch and he was so livid with theory behavior that he didn't take them anywhere all day. Went back to the hotel room and took a nap while they watched tv. And then insisted on going home first thing the next day, instead of spending the day at the resort enjoying ourselves.

And somehow because they aren't the worst kids you can think of, that somehow makes them well behaved? That's really the standard you are ok with, not being the worst?

I'm too picky and don't give them a chance..... Yet every time he has to deal with them he's beyond frustrated and pissed at them. But heaven forbid I express the slightest annoyance with them.

So once again, all effort and contributions I have made to raising these kids has been completely belittled and cast aside.