Inviting BM to stay with us...
Y'all... I need to know if I did something crazy LOL
DH and I live 5 hours away from BM. We have full-custody of SD, who is almost 8, and BM takes her for summer visitation (about a month and a half) and that's it.
We are currently getting ready to move to another province. Now we'll be 21 hours away from BM. She will still get SD for summer visitation, but I went ahead and let her know if she wants to fly out for march break, she is welcome to stay with us. I didn't do this for BM, I did it for SD. So she knows that although we are moving away with her, we still value her relationship with her mother. DH didn't really care either way. He said he personally wouldn't of invited her, but he's fine with it if I am.
Our relationship is quite strong and SD has never expressed a desire for her parents to be together because she doesn't remember a time without me in her life. We have a great relationship and I've been living with her full-time since she was almost 2 years old.
Now I'm wondering... Did I do something stupid? Will it be weird? And what can I do to avoid it being weird? I'm really only looking at what's in the best interest of SD - but will this confuse her? Like I said, she's fully aware that DH and I are married, her primary parents, etc.