I'm really confused now.
This is very strange and I really beginning to wonder about the extent we are being played.
Before Christmas, we had an episode with Stink lying about taking the PSAT’s. He told a very elaborate story about what was on the test, the room etc. We thought it was strange that he didn’t know when they would be getting the scores and that it wasn’t on a Saturday. We also had an issue with a stupid lie. I told stink at that point, I will be calling the school to verify anything I have a question about.
Well, yesterday I got a Stink lie when I picked him up from school. Which it took him 4 hours on Sunday to figure out he DID have school on Monday. I still can’t understand why it is so difficult for a 17 YO to know what the school schedule is or how to figure it out.
This morning to I had to call the school to verify Stink’s claim. The person who answered the phone was very helpful and found out which teacher he was talking about and put me into her VM.
The teacher called me back. She said it was a half-truth. Stink claimed the teacher kept them 25 mins after school; she said it was less than a min. She said exactly what I told him, there is a bus schedule.
Then she filled me in about how socialable he is, he has a group of friends, how well-spoken he is. I told her, I have been picking him up since 5th grade and I have only seen him having social interaction one time. She was like no, whenever she seems him he is with a group. She said, everyone likes him because he is a pleasure to be around. WTF, she must be stoned. I asked her are you sure you are talking about Stink? Then I told her he is an Aspie. She asked ME if I was sure. She said he is NOTHING like the other Aspies she has taught. She said she has never witness any behaviors that would lead her to even think he has a mild case. I was floored. I think the normal response from a parent would be glad, but this is NOT the kid that lives here!!!!!
Strange thing is the therapist has been saying he is totally different in group than he was in the one-on-ones. She told me, she was really beginning to wonder. He does have that flapping thing going on, which is an Aspie trait.
I have always know the brat was playing us, could he be playing this much??? He goes to group tonight, I don’t know if I’ll be able to talk to her about this tonight. I don't know what to think.
What do other teachers say
What do other teachers say about him? Is it possible this particular teacher is just clueless?
I'm just blown away by the
I'm just blown away by the entire thing. I briefly spoke to DH about this, he thinks it's great...but his cluelessness is part of the problem. He is going to group tonight, I emailed the therapist earlier and I am hoping to speak to her. But she has been puzzled since he started group. Based on his behaviors in the one-on-ones she told me he was just in there for head count, she thought it was going to a total waste of time. But he surprised her, she said he interaction, he helps to, he can follow directions, as well as, give direction and support, she said he is totally different. She is puzzled. He is doings some of the same tasks they did in the one-on-ones (the therapy he goes to uses horses, he was scared to death or horses. I figured this would be good for him, hahahaha. When he was doin gpriovates some the tasks took him 3 or 4 visits to complete. He played helpless and I did witness him hanging on the paddock fence not doing the more than once. In group, he is a team player and a leader on the same tasks. She is puzzled, she said maybe because he has done it before? Even the therspist said, she has never been played by a kid like this kid trys to play her.
For group, she always has another therapist there. There are 3 or 4 women that rotate, they have a fresh look at the kid. They think he is normal. Then she has another people that just watches what is going on with the horse, her specialist, this girl has seen the kid in one-on-ones and group and she said you can't beleive it is the same kid.
This is the first time I ever spoke to a teacher. I gave up on his schooling after all the bold-face lies he had told me. To be honest, I don't even know if the school does parent-teacher. Maybe I should find out?
IDK about this....if this little brat has been playing us......would to write to me when I am in jail?
My son has Apbergers and I
My son has Apbergers and I can tell you that he was no different around me or anyone else or even in school. All his teachers told me the same thing and it was the same thing I noticed at home. This is mainly a social thing mainly with social behaviors such as he has no idea that is it socially wrong to get in your face to talk to you. My son does that to everyone. Groups are very hard on him he doesn't know what to say or do he normally sits there. He also doesn't pick up on clues from his friends. I have seen where a girl would be sweet on him and ask him to carry her books and he just looks at her like you can't do it yourself?
As I said mainly my son is clueless to pick up on what is around him. He doesn't see his environment.
I think you need someone come in and watch him at school and at home as well as how he interacts with other people and how interacts with you guys. I'm willing to bet it is way different when he is at school compared to how he is at home.
Stink does have a serious
Stink does have a serious flapping problem, I mean serious. He also makes a lot of strange noises. Of course, there is no eye contact. Reading people…..nope…he can’t tell the difference between when someone is happy or pissed. He has very poor fine motor skills and in general he is totally spazzy. He was eval’ed by the best Aspie expert in the state. He hangs around with no one, the calls he gets on his cell is from his mom, I have known this kid since he was 8 and I can count on ONE hand how many times he did things with his “friends”. These “friends” were the children of his mother’s neighbor, the woman use to watch Stink. So, I question the friendships. He was eval’ed at having 85% of the traits.
He used to go over DH’s co-workers house to play with her son. He was ok were her son and SKIDS. BUT if they had their friends over he freaked out and we would have to and get him.
He has ZERO awareness, that is one of the things the therapist worked on him with in privates. It is downright scary how detached he is from his surroundings. SS has his permit (over a year a now), Dh has been letting him drive to school since August, he still needs to be told what turns and when. If he comes walking with us (UGH) we take the same route every time, he needs to be told where to turn and every time he asks “are you sure we went this way last night.” Going in public, he has to be told constantly watch where you are walking (he walks directly into people or drifts into traffic).
When he is with us, he withers when a waiter or waitress talks to him. He jumps out of his skin, is someone touches him. Watching him interact at a cash register or ordering something is downright painful.
The driving school (that’s another story) reported his lack of awareness to be a major issue.
I am just totally perplexed right now. Like I said, I hope to talk to the therapist tonight. She specializes in the various levels of autism and she is puzzled too. IDK. We are leaving for the therapist in about 30 mins or so. I'm floored.
My son is the same way but
My son is the same way but not as bad. My son has the same problem with driving but he walks and rides his bike everywhere and is very independent. I made sure my son never used autism as an excuse. I told him that he had to work harder and we did a lot of repetitive stuff. Like when he didn't do something right I made him do it right 3 times in a row and it would go up very time he 'forgot' to do it right. That helped a LOT! That was his therapists idea.
I think he is playing you to a degree, I bet he is not not as bad as he is trying to make you think he is. Why else would he one way with you and another when not with you? One thing I have learned is that these kids are the same no matter who they are around or with.
My neighbors kid is the same way, he is the same at school as he is at home.