I don't know what to do. As I stated before, the BM has already broken court order by trying to pick up SSs from school without her supervisors(she only gets the boys with supervised visits). My oldest SS(14) hates his BM. He always refers to her as the Bitch and even with her around, he refusses to call her Mom. The youngest(10) is scared to be around his BM. Both boys have told her they DO NOT WANT TO BE FORCED TO SEE HER. They will come visit when they want to and they have even gone as far as to protest and would not go with her on her days.

My SSs are still asking BM to respect them and their wishes by givin them a break and let them stay with BD and SM for a little while without having to go back and forth all the time. BM's respone, infront of me and BD was she does not care about what they want. "This is not about you guys, it is about me and what I tell you will happen. You have no idea what you do and do not want. I will be the one to tell you what you do and do not want."

BM has been told she is bipolar and she will not get treatment for it. She yells and cusses at the children all the time. She has to have one of her court ordered supervisors with her at all times she has the boys. She has already broken that at the schools and tried to get them alone. Now, after spending the weekend with BM boys have come home and informed us that they were left with BM and new boyfriend all weekend without any supervisor. BM has told them to lie about it if asked.

As I am sure you can already tell, I do not care for BM. But I want my SSons to be happy and have the best possible childhoods. We (husband and I) do not feel that it is safe and healthy for children to be with BM. In the past, before we even found out she is bipolar, we got reports from the boys that in addition to the yellin and cussing she would hit them and force them to take some type of pills. They never knew what the pills were. And she has not and is not makin sure the oldest (a bad diabetic) gets his medicine. He has gone without insulin for a day and she has not given him one of his pills for at least three weeks (that I know of).

Our court order says that she has to be supervised with the boys at all times. If she runs low or out of medicine, she has to notify me (SM) that she needs more with a 24 hr. notice. She also has to respond directly to me when I ask any questions that has to do with the boys and she has to communicate with me and my husband about doc appts and school info.

I am at my wits end with BM and our lawyer. Everytime we call Lawyer to inform him of broken court order he replies, "Make a note of it." He wants to take everything before the judge that ordered supervised vitits and we have to wait until that judge in back in our county. No telling when that may be. Meanwhile I have 9 pages of typed notes from June 2009 to now.

I am going to lose it and then plead temp. insanity!!!!!!