I want out
I'm done, I quit, I feel like I live on a tightrope every day of my life and I thought that I could manage to shove the stress in a compartment, but it's starting to break me down. That probably sounds really dramatic coming from a 31 year old guy.
The expectations that my wife tries to put on me for my SD are too much for me. I don't love the child. I do take up responsibilities (daycare pick ups/babysitting throughout the day). She goes to extremes with her expectations, and honestly, if I was smart, I would just fake it. I can't bring myself to do it. She wants a replacement. She's an active alienator of her own daughter to her daughter's father. She doesn't parent (in a manner that's healthy to a child), she stays at her job until 7:30pm every other night when she doesn't have to.
Her child is misbehaved and messed up to the point that I don't want our shared daughter around her, and my wife and her family fight tooth and nail every single day about it. My family is 8 hours away, I'm alone in the fight. Her daughter kicks the ever living crap out of our dog. It's getting worse with time. I'm trying to get my wife to adjust SD's behavior so that SD becomes a person I can tolerate my own daughter using as a role model, but over time, she's shown that it isn't going to happen.
The dilemma is this. I'm a guy. This holds several implications when it comes to our shared daughter in court. I don't want her in that situation. I don't want her to live through the same life her half sister is living, so I thought I'd be able to "hold out" until she's an adult. I have evidence of my wife and her families alienation, I have evidence of my wife having total mental breakdowns during arguements, but I'm afraid that it wouldn't be enough. I want to take my daughter to my family that's 8 hours away, stay single forever, and put it all into raising her as the custodial parent. I don't want to keep her from her mother, but I want to make sure she doesn't turn into the same screwed up garbage that my wife and her family are.
I literally have nobody or nowhere else to vent about this. It's a lot.