I need to vent
I have been a stay at home mom for 5 yrs and have been lucky enough to have a live in maid. It was a God sent. I have been been without a maid now for 5 months. 5 spoilt kids who have no consideration for anyone but themselves. I raised my 2 bio kids for 3 yrs without interference and before the 3 came to live with us. They were honestly on the right track until the influence of the others. The oldest son won't even cook, I have admittedly been sexist like everyone before me, and and told the girls that they need to know how to take care of the house. My kids are slobs, they father is no better. I wake up at 5:30 "" to get them ready for school and then clean up, laundry, ironing and cooking. Today I actually timed myself, I started at 7 and sat down at 12:30 and I still hadn't done the ironing. I ended up burning the dinner in the over while my 13 yr old SD was standing by the stove cooking. I have punished her by leaving the cooking to her without the sisters helping because she was disrespectful. She continues to say that she she did nothing wrong even though I told her that the pun will be lifted if she acknowledged what she did and apologized and her response was, "it's OK, I'll keep cooking by myself coz I did nothing wrong". When I asked DH about it he said, "she'll learn". Basically leaving the decision to me of whether or not this gets sorted. She leaves her room untidy and tells me that I don't understand her, she's her own person and likes her room like that and will only clean when she feels like it dirty. I want to smash something because I know that at 13 my mom could rely on me to have dinner cooked, my school uniform clean and by little brother taken care of when she was working for us. I'm so irritated, I feel like Bio mom, who passed away, raised spoilt brats and checked out. Irrational and unfair, I know but I wish she was here to deal with her kids.