I hope I'm making the right decision!
So I have been married 3 years. My husband is 18 years older than me. He has 2 kids from a previous marriage (19 yo boy and 13 year old girl). Currently we only have his daughter every other weekend. The weekends she is here I am in hell. The more time that goes by the less I seem to be respected. I have a 5 month old baby and I am worried for her future around this family. My husband and I have been having tons of issues since I got pregnant. He said he wanted a child with me but it seems like the opposite. It feels like I am on the bottom of the priority list after himself and his other 2 kids. Where does that leave my daughter? He doesn't respect any of my wishes. He didn't respect the fact that I didn't want SD at the hospital after giving birth. I told him she could come over once I was home but he brought her to the hospital anyway. We have tons of fights like this where I try to explain she is not my daughter but he always says since she is his I can't tell him he can't. I can go on and on about our fights. I also don't trust SD to carry around my baby and he is even fighting me on that. I let her do other things but there are limits. My husband never seems to consider where I am coming from and implies I should do what he wants since I knew he had kids. I also feel like he only shows interest in the baby around SD as a way to bond with SD. It drives me nuts. I also don't like my SD attitude or personality at all. I live out in the country and come from a hard working and straightforward honest family. SD is into rap and playing on her cell phone and never working for anything. She thinks everything is owed to her. I know the age difference means she might not have much influence on my daughter but I am still scared. My husband has serious anger issues and has threatened to leave a couple times but never did. About a week ago we had a calmer conversation about separation and divorce. I'm not sure 100% if that's what we are going to do since his parents came and are staying until Sunday so we parked the conversation for now. I don't want to do what's just best for me but what is best for my baby girl. I am deathly scared of being a single mom but maybe I need to do this. Please give me advise! Has anyone been through this?