I hate my stepdaughter!
Hi! New here and with a brutal topic!
I hate my 4 year old stepdaughter.
I guess I should give a little background story. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years and throughout that time I have been spending time and getting to know his 4 yr old daughter. At first she was really nice and sweet and was very tolerable to be around as far as toddlers go. But recently she has been such a pain. Everytime I think about it her I just get overwhelmed and annoyed.
She is the most whiny child I have ever met! All she does it cry about everything. She always talks back and doesn't do what she is told the first time she is told to do it. Now I don't have kids, but I would definitely be doing things different if she were my child. Anytime my boyfriend and I want to watch a movie she has to cry and whine about it because it's not something SHE wants to watch! We spend the whole day playing with her, entertaining her, and pretty much being a circus act for her and she still has the nerve to cry about us not putting on a movie for her because she "doesn't like it and it's her turn to pick". I have talked to my boyfriend about this and in the beginning he would say "well she's 4 what do you want me to do?" "She's just a child." I get it... children are going to be mischevious sometimes. But how long are you going to excuse a child for not knowing or doing better because "she's just 4" or because "she's just a child" YOU TEACH THEM TO DO BETTER! Anyways, my bf has gotten a little bit better by correcting her and telling her no. But she STILL whines! And sometimes he still gives in to her manipulative ways of crying or beginning to cry to get what she wants.
I think my bf and my SD's mom are at fault. They both deal with the guilt of not being a family anymore so they buy her anything she asks for and give in to giving her anything she wants. They will do anything to make them feel better about not being together as parents for her. Her mom spoils her so much it's ridiculous. SHE IS SPOILED. Her mom has 3 other roommates so my SD always has someone to play with all the time. She gets upset when no one wants to play at the moment and cries about it. Also, if you tell her that she needs to go to bed she will cry about that as well. Or she'll cry and ask her dad if she can sleep in his bed. Then I have to go back to my apartment and sleep there for the night. I don't know about the sleeping on the bed thing, but I think enough is enough. My bf and I barely get time to be together and night time is our time to hang out. So when she asks him to sleep in his bed I instantly get pissed off. Because I have to go to my apartment and sleep there when that could have been time we could have been spending together. We spend the WHOLE DAY spending time with her and entertaining her so why does she have to sleep in his bed too? I HATE HER. I know that may be so strong to say about a child but I really do. I hate it. I hate having to cater mine and my boyfriends whole day and time to her and not being able to have just an hour out of the day of adult time by watching a movie or playing a game without her whining about it.