I can't wait for my step children to go home to their mom.
My step daughters are driving me nuts. They have been with us all summer and I have been the primary caregiver. I am 48 years old and I have raised my children. I knew when I married my husband that he had younger children. What I didn't know is that I was going to be taking care of them 24/7 when they were with us.
My husband is 50 and I love him so much. We have both been divorced twice and have the same wants, needs and goals.
The BM lives half way across the country so we only get the girls for summers and every other Christmas. She is in the Army and lives on base housing. The girls hate it there and want to live here. I don't want them to live with us. I can barely stand them when they are here for the summer.
They are spoiled and messy. I am constantly on them to pick up their toys and crafts (they are 6 and 10), to put away their clothes, and help around the house (I need a total hip replacement and am in pain constantly). I have extra laundry, dishes and house cleaning. My husband works in the oil field but is home every night. I am the primary caregiver and have tried to do things to keep them occupied but I don't sleep at night because of the pain and I'm just plain wore out. Even when daddy is home I am the one they come to me and it makes me angry.
I raised my kids and at this point in my life I thought I would be spending my summers in my gardens and redoing my home at my leisure, not raising and disciplining children. I am starting to resent my husband and really disliking the kids. The BM isn't any better as she calls constantly, especially when she knows we are having family days.
I want it back when we just called them once a week and didn't have to schedule our lives around the kids. They expect us to spend every freaking minute of every freaking day with them. I can't even spend an evening out with my girl friends because I am the one who has to get up early with them. I feel like I am being taken advantage of and I want them gone.
I hate that I feel this way and it may be that I am just bitchy because I am in pain all the time. I just want my life back without them.
I just needed to vent...