I can't see light at the end of the tunnel
I thought that maybe as SD17 got older, she would be more normal but the opposite has happened. She is more immature and socially awkward than ever. Hardly has any friends and definately doesn't date. This makes for a long weekend with DH and her. She expects to be at this side at all times. I am going to admit it...I really can't stand to be around her. When we go somewhere all together, she hangs all over him almost to claim him (she doesn't hang on him unless we are in a public place) so going out as a family sucks. Staying home sucks because she expects her father to constantly entertain her, e.i basically "date her"--he takes her to eat, get movies, takes her shopping, ect. and because I can't stand to go with them I stay home or go places by myself.I feel uncomfortable when I am go places with them...the outsider if you will.
My husband does anything she wants and never tells her no. The few times just he and I go somewhere by ourselves she texts him constantly and tells him she isn't feeling well and that he should come home because she is sick and he should be there to take care of her. I know that it is my husband who is to blame for allowing the narcissistic behavior in SD17 to continue but as old as this kid is I also have to believe that she knows exactly what she is doing. In the beginning to justify it all, I used to think that she is just a spoiled little girl who doesn't understand yet that I am not here to take her daddy away but she is plenty damn old enough now and she still acts the same.
Confession time--I don't like people who are drama queens, use people and treat them like garbage, complain all the time, lie and never think of anyone but themselves period--this being said I can't pretend to like my stepdaughter just because she is my stepdaughter.
I have an injury that could require surgery. As I make plans for the worst...taking time off, getting all my chores done before I'm laid up for a little bit, and who is going to pick me up after the procedure, the first thing that comes to mind is that I really can't depend on my husband...if SD17 gets a whim that she needs to go shopping or to be taken out to eat at the same time I need to be driven home from hospital I'm probably screwed because my husband has an inability or tell her no at anyone's expense. That sucks for me...guess I better give UBER a call.