I know this website is about step children but I have no friends and no resources to talk about my issue.
My husband and I have only been married for only 7 months. I made the stupid choice of marrying him right after our baby was born. I knew I’d regret it but I did it anyway thinking that it was what was best for our new baby. I didn’t want him to grow up with separated parents. My husband also has another son. He is two. He doesn’t have fifty percent of custody yet but he will next June. His parents are wealthy and payed for all his lawyer fees when him and his other baby mama were going to court for custody of step kid. I’ve grown sick of him. I can’t even look at him without feeling digust. He is an awful father and a lazy man child. He has a crap job and doesn’t make much money so his family practically pays for everything. He doesn’t help with our baby hardly ever and when his step son is over expects me to do a lot of the work. Last night he was tired and fell asleep at 6 while his son just played around the house. Then when nine o clock hit he just put him in his bed and went to sleep. Didn’t change his diaper or give him a bath. This morning his son woke up at 7 and he continues to sleep. It’s now 12:30 and I just got home from the gym. his son hasn’t had breakfast or lunch. He gave him some Doritos and let him eat them while he slept. He doesn’t play with him. He’ll lay on the couch and give his son movies to watch. He watch three movies yesterday while his dad slept. And two this morning. I feel really sad for his step child and a bit sad for mine as he’s going to grow up with a lazy dad who can’t take care of him. I’m growing weary of our relationship but don’t want to leave. He told me if you move out of the home you will lose rights to your child. Does anybody know if this is true? I’ve heard it’s called abandonment but I don’t know if it’s true. I want to leave but I don’t want to lose custody of my son. I love him so much. I also don’t want to leave though because if I do I’m afraid my son won’t get the care he needs like his brother and it makes me afraid to leave him with his dad
He is irresponsible we’re broker than broke and he took two days off last week because he was tired and needed rest he shouldn’t be doing that as he is two months behind on child support for his baby mama and can’t evwn afford to feed his family without his mothers help I don’t know how Togo about divorce with kids. He’s a very controlling guy and his parents will go above and beyond to make sure he gets custody of his kids. I can’t afford a lawyer. I can’t even afford to live on my own. I’m financially dependent on him and I don’t want to be. I don’t know where to start though. I need help and guidance as I try to make this transition out of my marriage. Does anybody have any resources or know where I should begin?
He has no idea I want to split. I just can’t take it anymore. I’m not on the house title or the cars and I’m afraid I’d be without both those things.