How do you watch a child's life be ruined and survive?
I'm not going to share a long story; I will just get to the point. I assume you can empathize. You are a decent human being. So is your spouse. You sit back and watch your step child's life become ruined day after week after month after year. You aren't the parent. Your spouse's hands are tied. The other parent is an idiot. Years have now passed. Nothing is going to change. This child's life will be forever effected because of the idiot parent. Money. Opportunities lost. Lazy way out. Etc.
It is so bad that carrying on with life is almost impossible. The toxicity of the endless situation is actually physically painful. But then there is the guilt. Guilt? Sure! After all, YOU aren't the child in the screwed up situation! And it is your SPOUSE, and not you, that has to watch their own child's life be ruined while their hands remain tied. I mean how dare you complain!
I'm not the one that has to live with this. But it is so painful, it is killing me. I can't talk to my spouse. Afterall, they are the one that ought to be able to talk to me. It is THEIR problem. They have it worse.
Does any of this make any sense? And how do you cope?
Thanks in advance.