how do you do it??!!
I am feeling so frustrated. so we are getting the oldest skid, 13 yr old and moving in with us. the past few months have been so peaceful. contact with bm has been a bare minimum with dh not answering calls, not returning texts that weren't absolutely necessary. and he has really put his foot down and stopped listening to all her stupid stories and only talking when there was no choice not to. now that skid is coming all of that has gotten out of control. bm calls constantly, feeling that she needs to be involved in every step. dh says we will get settled and return to normal soon, once the routine is lined out, esp when school starts, etc. so we're back to the old days of constant involvement. I know this will take some time for all parties, even him to get used to everything and then hopefully stop having so much contact from her. I am trying to figure out just what is bothering me so much, I know he despises her. I think its that I know she is in heaven being able to talk to him so much, and having this extra person in our lives, and 10 years of this seems like forever. I need to be able to just walk away from that part and let it go for my own sanity but its driving me crazy. and I don't want to disengage from the kids, I enjoy them. I feel frustrated, annoyed, and like my life is being invaded. he tries to make my feel better by saying he will only talk about kids, and he made such a mistake starting his family with her. he says not to take it personally that she seems to get her way, and he will tell me everything, which he has so that makes me secure, hes not running off to spend time with her or keeping secrets from me. so everything seems right but why is it still bothering me so much