How do we feel about joint birthday parties?
Well, I shouldn't really say "joint" because it says right there in the divorce decree the BM "shall plan and execute a birthday party for the child with friends and family" or something to that effect. I had to read it with my own eyes because I couldn't believe anyone would actually have that language inserted into a legal document.
Anyway, I attended my first bday party for my stepdaughter last June and it was plain awful. It was held at the BM's house, and since she is still very close to my husband's family, most of his family members were there and all of her family also, including her new husband. She had a grand 'ole time showing me how large and in-charge she still is. My husband told me he had no input with the party or guest list.
I just felt the whole thing was too close for comfort. I really think my husband and I should throw our own little party for his daughter this year. His former wife is nothing but a control freak. I have told my husband we need to lay down some boundaries this year starting with the birthday party. I don't mind attending dance recitals and such on neutral ground, but birthday parties at my husband's former wife's house are a little much for me.
Do I sound unreasonable? How do some of you handle this issue?