hospital visitors after baby's birth
Just want to see if you all think this is reasonable.
I'm having a scheduled c section in a couple weeks. I'm also in the middle of a divorce, which our families do not know about yet.
I plan on allowing DH in the delivery room, as long as he is sober. I have my friend on standby in case he is not because I can't deal with any BS from him that day.
Anyway, his family keeps asking what time the surgery is, etc. - they want to be there as soon as the baby is born.
This is not my first c section - last time, I was in recovery for HOURS, and it was needed. I was in pain and kind of out of it, and I didn't feel like seeing anyone besides my mom.
DH is not going to be of any comfort to me - we aren't even together. I want my own mom to come, but not his family. I don't have a problem with them coming the next day once I am in a regular room, just not while I am in recovery.
Is this reasonable? How would you go about letting them know you don't want visitors while in recovery, but then allowing your own mom to be there?
Yes, they are going to make a big deal about it.