Honest opinions. Am I being selfish and how would you handle this
SS12 is SUPER needy/clingy with DH when he’s over (almost 50 percent Split). This school year it’s gotten even worse as SS either can’t or won’t do his HW unless daddy is sitting with him walking him through everything(see other post). Between this and SS12 Completely unable to Entertain himself our parenting weekends/weekdays Revolve around SS. Now if that was not bad enough here is my NEW Dilemma....
SS12 Is a little bastard about doing his HW. Lies says it’s done or tells his teachers he forgot it at home. He stays after school to make up the work. Since the person running the class won’t spoon feed SS like DH and has other kids to watch over SS just sits there pretending to do the work but gets nothing done.
DH has come up with a Brilliant idea(NOT) to have SS12 call him when he’s with BM if he gets stuck with a question or two with his HW. Sounds Perfectly ok and normal right. With a NORMAL kid it would be. Well Needy/clingy SS of course jumped on this. There was no Quick five minute question no SS12 wants DH to stay on the phone with him for an hour doing his HW with him almost ever night he’s not with us.
DH is Self-employed and add we have needy/clingy SS12 almost 50 percent of the time between those two things I already get VERY little time with DH. Now almost every kid free day DH has to spend at least an hour on the phone doing HW sometimes it’s two hours. Yes I have spoken to DH and he thinks I’m selfish as he is just trying to help SS be Successful. Where I just see a lazy spoiled brat who does not want to do his HW and see’s an Opportunity for daddy to do it for him. Honestly am I wrong? How would you handle this?